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Number of ratings63 Number of reviews23 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceFeb 28, 2016 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 511 People helped144 Chats841 Forum posts6 Forum upvotes9
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Hello! I'm glad you've found me on 7 Cups of Tea. I'm a trained active listener and I like to support people struggling with difficulties in their lives. I enjoy watching movies, collecting tv series shows, reading, and swimming. I've overcome a lot in life and would like to help by listening to you. If I'm online, then please feel free to start a chat. If I'm offline, then send me a message and we can set up a time to connect. I'm so happy you've come here to talk, I am more than willing to listen :)

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Anxiety
Anxiety Support / by SaffaTammy
Last post
 March 30th, 2022
...See more Hi everyone. I just wanted to pop in here and offer some light. I've had anxiety my whole life. I'm 34 years old. My body was in constant survival mode for years. About 4 years ago, I started learning techniques and tools that helped me alleviate many of my fears. I'm saying this because I want you to know that there is always hope. I've been in the darkest places, I've been there. You are not alone, even though it feels like you are much of the time. I really want that to sink in... You are not alone. There is always hope ♥️ Sending love your way xxx
Bad childhoods, who needs them?
Trauma Support / by SaffaTammy
Last post
 August 9th, 2014
...See more Hi everyone, Tammy here. I was born in south africa in 1987. I was sexually abused by a friend of the family when I was about 4 years old (which I only remembered when I was 13 and got sent to a psychiatrist because I was acting out at school and ran away). Since I can remember my dad and mom drank a lot and my dad use to beat my mum. A lot of the time it was in front of me. This carried on up until a few years ago. When I was six a little sister came into my life and then another little sister when I was 7. I knew at that stage that I had to grow up because I had to protect them from my dad. So I never really had a childhood. The domestic violence was really really horrible. My dad would throw my mom through glass doors, he would lock us all outside to sleep at times. He would throw hifi's and tvs at my mom. He constantly cheated on her. And he would force himself onto her when she didn't want to have sex. I was always told to keep quiet and not talk to family members about it, but a lot of them knew (how could you not right?) and couldn't really do anything. My mum would never leave my dad, no matter what, no matter how much I begged her. Seeing all the violence must affect a child in some way right? And my dad never believed in counselling. So now I am almost 27, I suffer from anxiety, I suffer from a  bit of paranoia, I am insecure. I am married and I have 2 children. And I have no idea how to raise a proper family as I have never known a proper family, I only know what not to do. And I know that you have to let your children be children for as long as they can, because when it's gone, it's gone. You can't get it back.I start my first therapy session on Monday so that I can finally get my life as 'proper' as I can. And all I want to do is be there for people going through problems because there was never anyone there for me, and I really think it would've made a difference if there was. So that s my goal,  become a better person, and make a difference in people's lives. Thank you for taking the time to read this, it really is appreciated. 
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Very kind and understanding
Great listener. Provided a different perspective that made something click for me. I truly appreciate it.
Amazing awesome chat
great listener. thanks tammy.
Great listener! Will help you gain what it is you need through conversation, even if you don’t know what you need for yourself.
So helpful and friendly. She spend a lot of time to listen to which was so precious
She was an amazing helper
Really helped my mood this-evening. First person I've really spoken to about my anxiety who I feel listened to me and understood :)
Amazing listener, very kind and understanding. So happy that i met her :)
Absolutely brilliant. She made me feel heard and understood and made me feel safe and protected. She's an awesome girl. Thanks so much for your help!!!
lovely and helpful xx
Good listening skills
Thanks =)
She is so lovely and so kind. I adore that in people. Thank you so much for all you do for all of us who come here to your aid for help. You make me feel like I have some type of hope in this life. Never stop being amazing.
Well this is akward, the word "feedback". You're such a nice person and someone who one can talk to. As on the book "Ender's Game" empathy is something you seem to have grown fond of, and that's something you don't see too often. You really get we all have problems, big, medium, small... and you don't underrate any of them, so it's cool you are not only a +1 of all the people, you're a whole person and a human being.
It is helping a lot
She is really sweet :)
I like Tammy a lot
Great listener
:)
Very helpful
Very good conversationalist, Tammy is awesome !
This person knows how to help :)
Categories
Depression
Managing Emotions
Bullying
Eating Disorder
Panic Attacks
Anxiety
Parenting
Breakups
Family Stress
Domestic Violence
Forgiveness
Social Anxiety
Loneliness
PTSD
Relationship Stress
Borderline (BPD)
Self-Esteem
Spirituality
General Mental Health
Sexual Health
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